Lube up! No matter where you’ll be putting your toy, lubricant cuts down on friction and makes for better play, Dr. Queen says. (Don’t know where to start? Peep our list of best lubes.) Again, if you’re using a silicone toy, which is likely, stick to water-based lubricants to keep your toys from falling apart.
Start slow—and small. Anal toys like butt plugs, anal beads, and dildos on the slimmer, shorter side are perfect for adjusting your anus to having something inside of it. Grasp the anus in your hand near the base if you want to insert just a little bit at a time, moving in long, slow strokes before you get going.
Use that suction cup (or harness). Stick the toy’s suction base against a smooth, flat surface (like a shower wall) so you can access it on your own (and again, lube is your friend). You can also attach any harness-compatible dildo into a strap-on to try out pegging with a partner.
Add other forms of stimulation. To make it easier to orgasm, Dr. Queen says, you can mix in stimulation with other vibrator toys, suction toys, or your fingers—especially if you’re using a suction-cup dildo, which leaves both hands free to explore.
